Sex – one of the most fascinating and polarising topics in the world. When you are in a long term relationship, however, sometimes sex can just feel….stressful. One person might want it more than the other, things might get in the way, physical issues might intrude……and suddenly, sex is something that comes with stress and anxiety, rather than excitement and fun. But never fear – here are some ideas for sexy games to shift your attention towards fun and enjoyment – and bring you even closer together.
1. Guess This Item
This game is super simple and requires some sensory involvement – a surefire way to focus our attention on the physical. Blindfold your partner and have them guess the objects you place or trace over their skin (we recommend ice cubes, feather, silk) – this is a great way to get you both in the mood and try something new.
2. Truth Or Dare
This is actually without the truth – and more about challenging each other to push new boundaries and take some risks – with sexy punishment if the person backs out. The dares can be as simple as wearing handcuffs for an hour, or a bit more complicated (such as a naughty striptease or ‘performance’). The key is to try new things, so get out there!
4. Aural Sex
Reflect on both of your fantasies/preferences and find some erotic fiction that floats your boat – and read it to your partner to get you both in the mood. We respond differently to audio than visual stimulus and often our imaginations can be even more powerful and erotic! This is also great if you struggle with insecurity and can really help us to get our engines running.
4. Spin The Bottle – With A Twist
Each person writes down 4 things they want the other to do to them (on separate pieces of paper) and places them in a circle – and then take turns spinning the bottle. Again, this is designed to shake up your sex routine and approach, so don’t be afraid to ask for exactly what you want, even if you’ve never tried it before! This is about trying new things, and feeling comfortable enough to ask.
Remember – these games can be a great addition to your sexy routine at any stage of the relationship – the idea is for us to get out of our rut, find satisfaction and closeness with each other, and move forward with a sense of fun and satisfaction. Good luck!